How to slow time

OK, you can’t actually slow time (as far as I know) but you can do something about the problem all couples seem to find at their wedding – that the day just races by in a flash and is over before they know it.

This is inevitable to a degree: compared to the hours, weeks, months – perhaps even years – that you’ve been anticipating and planning the day, the 16  or so hours of your wedding day are tiny.

But there are a few things you can do to make sure you don’t get to the end of the reception and say ‘What happened to the day?!’

Firstly, make sure you plan in some breaks – and stick to them, no matter what. I’ve seen couples go straight from 2-3 hours of photo locations to their reception entrance, and their eyes betray a sense of panic that the day has gone out of control. A word of warning – some  photographers, keen to get those few extra images for the album, are happy to keep shooting until the couple are dragged away from them into the reception. But finding 15 minutes or so at this stage of the day to just sit and recharge is essential, I think, if you’re to make the most of the reception and not end up completely wrecked.

Sam resting after a full day, before heading down to party. Out the window is a view of the Docklands from Atlantic restaurant.

The other thing that some couples manage to do is to keep reminding themselves to slow down, look around, and take it all in – like taking some mental photographs for yourself. Say to yourself “This is our wedding day!” So much happens, it’s easy to just be swept up in the action and forget to hold on to the experience.

And of course, if you don’t want your day to pass in a flash and be gone forever, have it filmed by a professional videographer. How much of the day they’ll film will depend on who you choose and the extent of the coverage. It’s wonderful when couples say to me after watching their DVD “We didn’t realise how much of the day we missed!”.. but I was there and I didn’t!